What do you understand when you hear the word ‘interracial’? Most people would immediately think of mixed races – and it is not often than this is not easily accepted. You would wonder why. Why is it that people are indeed differentiated by religion, nationality or race? Are not all people born equal in the eyes of God? Why do the eyes of humans differentiate among each other? Worst – why do they segregate themselves in tight compartments based on their beliefs, geographical location and physical attributes?
The Background in USA
Interracial relationships in USA refer mostly to those between the white and blacks – and these have evoked some extremely violent reactions, riots, arson and many lives were lost for what today seems a ridiculous self-imposed barrier. There have been more laws protecting or forbidding blacks than any other laws in USA – and today there is a grudging acceptance of the fact that relationships between two consenting adults do cross barriers of race, religion and economics.
Racism is an ugly and shameful – yet very real feeling that exists even today. It is not as open as it was in the beginning of the 20th Century and has fewer ugly repercussions, but there are still families out there that shut down the doors on their children who think of marrying “outside” their race – especially if their beloved is black. It is often that this non-acceptance of this marriage dooms a good number of black-white marriages. Marriages that are successful, usually move out from the “acceptance” requirement and make their own private world.
The Trends Are Changing
What is the most difficult part of an interracial marriage, most people would ask. The answer is nothing. Yes, nothing is difficult or any different than any normal marriage where two adults have to work out their likes and dislikes in such a manner that it is possible to co-exist in love and harmony.
Some people think that religion is often the bone of contention – especially when it comes to deciding what religion the children should be brought up in. Fortunately, this is rare. In reality interracial relationships are quite open about their personal religion choices and the children benefit from this broader outlook.
In most cases children would adopt the religion of the mother not for any other reason, but for the fact that they tend to copy the person they love the most – and that is in the majority of cases the mother. However, this does not mean that the religion o the father is ignored. Often children of such marriages grow up to respect both religions equally and with the utmost conviction that God is one and not limited to one particular religion.
Communications vs Miscommunication
Are there more conflicts in an interracial marriage than in any same race marriage? Conflicts – no. Differences – yes. There are many differences in the most basic of behavior which would definitely cast its shadow on the marriage or relationship. Things like eating vegetarian food vs non vegetarian food. In some places like India eating beef is considered a sacrilege – almost n par with eating another human being. In this case, some deep sacrifices and adjustments are required from both the partners.
However, if the basis of the marriage is based on love – all these difference would be worked out without any difficulty because both partners would want the other happy and hence a middle path would be easy to carve.
Benefits Of Interracial Relationships And Marriages
There are plenty of benefits that accrue from an interracial relationship. The first and foremost is that the children of this relationship are likely to be better global citizens than those born from marriages/ relationships of the same race. And this is the need of the day – more thinking we are part of the world, rather than a country or a race.
There is more tolerance towards the diversity of religion because the partners learn to respect the differences and nuances of each religious tradition they follow. Their children would grow with a broad outlook on God and the importance of religion. Again, this is the need of the day. More people have died as a result of religious hatred than all the wars put together. Religious tolerance and sensitivity is sorely needed in today’s world.
Do Interracial Relationships Actually Work?
This is a question that could be put for any marriage or relationship; and the answer would be the same. Yes, they do work. Provided both partners work at the marriage hard enough. This is a valid statement for all marriages or live-in relationships. Love between two consenting adults very rarely stops at racial and habit differences.
The success or failure of the interracial marriage/ relationship is not due to the differences of the persons who come together but the amount f love they share. It so happens that in many cases the difference of a race is more attractive and the love is based on the necessity to do something different. Here the attraction is more physical than mental – and such relationships fail because the weak mental connection would not stand a chance when the differences between the habits, traditions and treatment by people at large surface.
All interracial marriages which were based on mental compatibility and love are successful because when two people are in love – nothing else is important but one another’s happiness. Some of the failures are credited to the backhanded pressure from the parents of these people. This is because most people need the approval of their families even if they do not openly acknowledge this fact. When this approval is not forthcoming, people usually store it at the back of the mind and thereafter blame any or all difficulties on that non-acceptance.
Fortunately, the trends are changing and the people of USA are now more open than ever to interracial relationships and marriages. Hopefully, this trend would continue and give way to a better and more homogenized world over the next three four generations.