Advice on Losing Your Virginity
There are various definitions to the term ‘virginity’ but for the sake of this article let us assume that virginity implies to a condition where a person has not experienced sexual intercourse with a member of the opposite sex. Now that we have a clear definition of the term virginity let us proceed to the all important questions and answers concerning ‘losing virginity’.
Why Lose Your Virginity?
One of the most important things to consider before losing your virginity is to think about what your primary motivations are for doing so. If it is just because you want others to know you had sex or to gain some sort of respect for yourself from others, please put the idea completely out of your mind. This is a very sad and empty reason for you to lose your virginity.However, if you want to lose your virginity to bond towards the partner you love and want it for that reason alone, then this is a good reason to shoot for as a rule. If you have known this person for a very long time to be truly in love with him/her or in other words, both of you are emotionally connected to each other then sex can be an enriching experience. You know it is right when both of you have mutually agreed to go forward and not when someone is pressuring you.
Do Not Give into Peer Pressure
Statistics have shown that in many cases it is peer pressure that makes a boy or girl make up their mind to give their virginity away. But think about this for a second. Just because your friend(s) have lost their virginity does not mean that you have to. Every one of us is unique and we have unique needs and wants. In life you always have to set your own rules and follow those rules no matter what. If you do not think it is the right time to lose your virginity, do not do it. Do not let your friends pressure you. They do not own your life. You decide what is best for you. The best way to lose your virginity is to ask yourself if it is the right time and if it is the right person. If the answers to these two questions come back yes, then you know you can proceed without any doubts. However, if the answer is no or one in which you do not have a definite response, the best advice would be to wait until you can have a more certain answer. That way you will not make a mistake ahead of time.Are You Really Ready for It?
Ask yourself exactly who you are as a person. Are you ready to have sex? Are you ready to lose your virginity here and now or should you wait until later? Your individual personality and background will help to give you the answers that you need. If your answer is "no" for the present, then stick to your guns; no one will hold it against you if you decide to wait to have sex until you are ready. True friends will still be friends and a potential partner if they truly love you will wait to have sex with you. You have nothing to lose if you say "no". So go with your gut feeling and take it from there. The final decision is yours anyway and no one else’s.Losing Virginity for Women
The following advice for losing virginity is aimed at women but many points apply to men as well. So read them carefully.Losing Virginity and Bleeding: Women losing virginity can experience mild pain and bleeding. However, the good thing is that these are only temporary and do not occur after the first time. But if you continue to bleed abnormally after sex or experience great pain whenever having sex, it is best to consult a gynecologist as soon as possible. Point to note is that this is a rare condition that most women do not experience.
Preparing to Lose Your Virginity: Losing your virginity can be a very satisfying thing or it can be just the opposite. It is all about how you and your partner approach the situation. If you look at it a very pleasurable and rewarding experience, it will turn out to be so. Nevertheless, if it is something that you are having doubts about or if thinking about it is making you extremely anxious, it can turn out to be a disaster for both you and your partner. So just listen to your inner feeling. What does it say?
When a woman is nervous or afraid about her first time sex, it can affect her physically. One symptom being the tightening up of her muscles down below, which can make penetration extremely difficult and painful in some cases. Being tense or nervous can also affect her mood and the mood of her male partner. Therefore, before having sex for the first time, a woman should not be in stress of any kind. If she is, it is best to stop and relax first. This can be achieved by taking a nice and long hot bath or having her partner do a complete body massage for her.
Knowing the Consequences and Complications – Very Important
The advice for those under the age of twenty is simple and this is to wait until you are older and are truly ready to take on the complications that having sex can bring along with it. Some of the complications that young people are not prepared to deal with are unwanted pregnancies and STDs.Babies should not be having babies. So young people should avoid having sex or losing their virginity until they are much older and emotionally mature enough to accept the consequences that can occur from just one night of unrestrained passion. Teenagers and the like should become the person that they dream of before sleeping with someone and making a baby that will only take away their promising future from them. Don't play if you aren't prepared to pay which could very well be for the next eighteen years of your life. A baby is a huge responsibility and not something you can readily rid yourself of. The same applies with certain types of sexually transmitted diseases. Therefore, the most adult thing that youngsters can do about losing their virginity is to hold on to it until they are much older and meet the person that they truly love and want to get settled with.
Practicing celibacy and avoiding sexual temptation is far better than having to face the fall out from having sex before you are actually ready for it emotionally and physically. Benefits of celibacy is certainly on the upper side and sex after celibacy is certainly sweeter.
The last piece of advice about loosing your virginity is this. When you do have sex for the first time, let it be a very special time that only contains a lot of patience, understanding, and tenderness. You and your partner must relax and take things slow. Make sure that the birth control is in place. Finally yet importantly, let things happen, as they go along. Because it is fools alone, that do go rushing in!
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